And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, Philippians 1:9 (ESV)
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” 1 Corinthians 15:33 (ESV)
When a person is contemplating a serious relationship that will lead to marriage, they must be careful about who they choose as a life partner. At times, a person’s actions and decisions can be influenced by the world, instead of God’s word, when seeking a mate for life.
Many may panic when they see all their friends getting married and having children and they are still single. And since they do not want to be “left behind”, they will quickly enter a relationship and rush to get married before they have taken the time, to fully vet their potential life partner. They will rush into this permanent commitment not really knowing the other person’s true nature or true character, especially during stressful life events.
God calls for each of us to be discerning when choosing a life partner. If we ask Him and follow His Holy word, He will gladly give us discerning wisdom to guide us throughout life, especially when choosing a mate. There are many great men and women in the Bible to choose from as role models however, for this post, I chose Joseph and Mary.
Before Joseph ascended to his position as second in command behind Pharaoh in Egypt, he worked for many years as a high-ranking servant. As a manager of Potiphar’s entire household, he had ample opportunity to lie, cheat, steal, and commit adultery with Potiphar’s wife. However, even though he was constantly tempted, he held fast to his convictions and to God’s ways, and he resolved not to give in to sin. When reading Joseph’s story in the Bible, it is clear he sought to display Godly integrity throughout his lifetime.
In choosing a Mary, (Mary the mother of Jesus) choose a woman who not only listens to God but truly desires to always follow His precepts. Mary was a young woman God chose to carry and give birth to the Son of God, Jesus. God would not just choose anyone to fulfill this very important duty of giving birth and raising Jesus to manhood. From the Bible, Mary displayed characteristics of a willing and obedient daughter of God, trusting and believing in Him, despite not knowing her future. When a man is choosing a wife, she may have an upbeat bubbly personality, or she may be quiet and shy. Whatever her personality, watch to see if she displays kindness, wisdom, and a Godly character.
In choosing a life partner, seek someone with the qualities listed above. Seek someone you can trust explicitly and wholeheartedly. A life partner who when faced with temptations, will turn away, even run away, if need be, so they will not fall prey to sinful traps. Find a mate that will not just put on a performance in front of others, and then turn into someone totally different when you are alone without an audience. Take notice of their behaviors and personality. DO NOT IGNORE red flag warnings.
When choosing a Godly life partner, get to know them by dating in a manner that will please God. Do not rush the relationship or engage in activities that are reserved only for marriage. Take your time to discover their true character and life goals. Find out their passions and ideas, about God and life. Take your time to find out what is truly most important to them.
Seek a Joseph or seek a Mary.
Blessings,
Angélique
To contact: Angelique@21stcenturygodlyliving.com